A student returning after a long absence is already expecting the worst: questions, looks, and a mountain of make-up work. The first minute sets the tone.
Say this
- “I’m glad you’re here.”
- “We can figure out the catch-up part together.”
- “What would make today easier?”
Skip this
- “Where have you been?”
- “You’ve missed so much.”
- “Do you have any idea how far behind you are?”
Follow through
Within a week, meet for ten minutes to build a realistic catch-up plan. Choose the most important work first and name one adult who will check in.
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- How Families Can Help Without Making Things Worse
- Attendance Starts With Connection
Educational guidance only. Requirements vary by state and district. If a student may be in danger, follow your school’s safety procedures and contact emergency services (911) or crisis support (call or text 988 in the U.S.).