When a student says, “I’m done with school,” the instinct is to persuade. The instinct is understandable. It often backfires.
Try these three questions
- “What’s making school feel impossible right now?” This invites the real barrier.
- “What would have to change for this to feel possible?” This gives the student a voice in the solution.
- “Who could help us with that?” This turns a problem into a plan with another adult.
Then close with one next step
End with a small, specific action and a follow-up date: “I’ll check the credit review by Friday. Can we meet Monday?” The goal is not to win an argument about school. It is to help a student find a safe, credible, achievable path forward.
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